We believe as a child grows, the way they view themselves and the ones around them, have a huge impact for growth and self-development. Harry Pierre & PeTunia encourages children not only to believe in the power of the imagination, but also encourages them to believe in themselves. All parents know that some children can be malicious in their manners and respect towards other children. When your child is sad as they arrive home from school because another child called them a name, or ostracized them for the way unique ways – it breaks not only their heart, but yours as well. Because you are not always going to able to fight their battles for them, nor should you, you have to shift gears and build-up that self-esteem!
Learn certain phrases, quotes and short inspirational stories to share with you children, never forgetting that what quotes may work for one child, may not work for the other. We have to remember as parents, we are our children’s first teachers. They look at us to learn, so we all must watch what we’re saying and how we’re saying it. And that is not always easy!
My oldest daughter was such a serious child. She spoke early, was very aware of feelings earlier, she just understood her surroundings and people earlier than average. This left her being, at times, a very intense little girl. So, to relax her before dropping her off for school from Preschool through First Grade, I would have to turn on some upbeat, happy music right before leaving for school, and dance with her. Most days she just stood there and watched me dance, but either way, she usually smiled. Today, she is a relaxed, carefree, artistic young lady with a great sense of humor. Of course, I say it was the dancing that helped!
In my opinion, feeling sad is just as important as feeling happy. We don’t want to stay sad, but at times it helps children appreciate and understand that they are responsible for changing their attitudes to have a great day. It encourages them to differentiate between good and bad – and to feel gratitude when having a super day.
Here are a few things to say to your child, even if you do not feel them yourself:
- “Today is going to be a great day!”
- “I feel fabulous!”
- “Let’s dance and wash away the frowns!”
- “Oh, it’s raining today – well, that means tomorrow we will love and appreciate the sunny day even more!”
- “Oh, he/she wasn’t nice to you today? I’m sorry. What are we going to say to ourselves right now, that will make US happy?”
After a child slips out of that ‘sad zone’ it seems easier to talk to them to find out what happened and figure out solutions that may help.
As Geena Puddlesworth, Harry Pierre & PeTunia’s human sister says, encourage children to appreciate and love themselves, just the way they are! You never know, you may end up loving yourself a little more on this parenting journey, too!